# What Are The Warning Signs of Divorce? | Brown Family Law **Table of Contents***[*SHOW*]* 1. 1. Emotional Disconnect 2. 2. Avoidance 3. 3. Wary Behavior 4. 4. Uncaring Attitude 5. 5. Secretive Attitude 6. 6. New Looks, New Attitude ![What Are The Warning Signs Of Divorce?](https://www.brownfamilylaw.com/wp-content/uploads/what-are-warning-signs-of-divorce.png) Psychologists and divorce lawyers have discovered that the following 6 signs in a marriage may trigger a divorce: 1. Emotional Disconnect 2. Avoidance 3. Wary Behavior 4. Uncaring Attitude 5. Secretive Attitude 6. New Looks, New Attitude No online guide or research report can say with 100% accuracy that one or two signs in a spouse’s behavior indicate that divorce is around the corner. However, there are some warning signs that a spouse must pay heed to that may (or may not) trigger a divorce. Unusual behavior of a spouse happening once in a while and followed by normalcy may not be a tell-tale sign of divorce. However, if the spouse’s unusual behavior does not change, or keeps getting worse, then, yes, there may be [trouble in the air](https://www.brownfamilylaw.com/faqs/what-is-the-first-thing-to-do-when-getting-a-divorce/). Actually, it also depends on the situation, home environment, and the circumstances that led to this kind of behavioral change in the spouse. With that said, here are the warning signs of [divorce](https://www.brownfamilylaw.com/faqs/why-would-someone-rush-a-divorce/) that need to be taken seriously: ## 1. Emotional Disconnect - The spouses don’t share their moments of [sorrow or happiness](https://www.brownfamilylaw.com/faqs/is-it-better-to-divorce-or-stay-unhappily-married/). - A spouse starts resolving his/her [problems without sharing them](https://www.brownfamilylaw.com/faqs/why-do-marriages-fail-after-25-years/) with the other spouse. Or, he/she no longer resolves issues mutually, the way it is usually done in a marriage. - A spouse does not care or show any interest when the other spouse shares his/her problems, or is not ecstatic when any cheerful news is shared with him/her. - A spouse is unmoved by the other spouse’s emotions. - The time spent together keeps declining for no valid reason. - There is a lack of intimacy (physical as well as emotional). - A spouse feels unloved and uncared for. Get Clear Guidance for Your Divorce [Schedule a Consultation](https://www.brownfamilylaw.com/contact-us/) ## 2. Avoidance - A spouse does not commit to plans that the other spouse feels are good for the marriage. - A spouse does not seem to be invested in the marriage and his/her lack of interest keeps growing over time. - A spouse pulls back when the other spouse tries to get close to him (physically or emotionally). - A spouse starts talking about how to become more independent and self-reliant in the marriage. - A spouse keeps putting off discussing problems in the relationship – saying that problems can be resolved at a later date or when the time is right. - There is a lack of arguments in the marriage (because each spouse avoids discussing issues or resolves problems himself/herself). A Calmer, Clearer Way Through Divorce [Talk to Our Team](https://www.brownfamilylaw.com/contact-us/) ## 3. Wary Behavior - A spouse is suspicious of the other spouse or ultra-careful most of the time – he/she feels that the other spouse may take advantage of him/her, trying to restrict him/her, or is trying to gather information. - A spouse gets irritated when questioned. - A spouse rarely expresses his/her own emotions (maybe he/she is afraid of slipping up by saying something secretive). ![Brown Law Logo](https://www.brownfamilylaw.com/wp-content/themes/brown-family-law/assets/app/img/logo-white.png) Support Through Your Toughest Transition [Call ![call-arrow](https://www.brownfamilylaw.com/wp-content/themes/brown-family-law/assets/app/svg/cta-call.svg)801-685-9999](tel:+18016859999) ## 4. Uncaring Attitude - Both spouses argue or fight frequently and say things that are calculated to hurt. - Both or one spouse simply does not care about anything that goes on with the other spouse. - Both spouses disagree about significant decisions (having children, giving up on [substance abuse](https://www.brownfamilylaw.com/faqs/how-to-keep-a-gambling-addict-from-stealing-their-kids-identities/), etc.). - Arguments or fights seem like a Mexican stand-off – with both spouses displaying a trigger-happy attitude. - A spouse is not available, maybe deliberately, when the other spouse needs him/her the most. - Marital problems [remain unresolved](https://www.brownfamilylaw.com/faqs/what-is-the-number-1-cause-of-divorce/), and one or both spouses give a damn. - A spouse goes out often with unknown friends or on unscheduled work-related trips or starts traveling frequently all of a sudden. ## 5. Secretive Attitude - He/she changes social media/email passwords, is careful about stuff posted on social media, or gives away tell-tale signals like closing his/her computer when the other spouse walks by. - A spouse gets suddenly secretive about marital assets and money or shows sudden interest in [marital property](https://www.brownfamilylaw.com/faqs/can-my-ex-get-my-separate-non-marital-property-in-the-divorce/). ## 6. New Looks, New Attitude - A spouse suddenly changes his looks or starts caring about his/her looks, while displaying one or more of the signs mentioned above. - A spouse develops a carefree, devil-may-care attitude towards the marriage without any valid reason. If you come across such signs, and if they occur frequently or consistently, then [it is a red flag](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/better-divorce/202108/8-signs-partner-may-want-divorce). At one stage, you may feel deprived, emotionally depreciated, insignificant, confused, disliked, guilty, lonely, or unworthy in the marriage. You should then take firm steps to resolve the issues – i.e., either try and repair the [irreconcilable differences](https://www.brownfamilylaw.com/faqs/what-are-examples-of-irreconcilable-differences/) or [file for divorce](https://www.brownfamilylaw.com/faqs/how-do-you-know-if-you-are-ready-for-divorce/) – you should know what comes next one way or the other. **Note**: Domestic violence and child abuse are not mentioned as warning signs of divorce because they are off-limits and should not be tolerated. 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