Many Utah parents attempt to weigh the pros and cons of staying together for the children’s sake or going their separate ways. Plenty of studies indicate that divorce can have an adverse effect on children, but not as much attention is paid to those children who grew up walking on eggshells around their parents due to their constant conflict. Considering the alternative, an uncontested divorce may be the best option.
Sometimes, it is necessary to overlook all of the research regarding what “might” happen to children of divorce and focus on what is happening to them while their parents are still married. Some parents believe it is possible to hide the fact that they are unhappy in their marriage from the children, but if the children were asked, they would probably say they already know. There is nothing wrong with admitting that the marriage is over.
Making that admission does not mean that the parents love their children any less. In fact, it could end up proving how much they love their children, since they do not want them growing up in a house of “impending divorce” where such a pronouncement could be made any day. The stress placed on not only the couple, but the children as well, may be too much for everyone to bear.
Once a Utah couple that is unhappy in its marriage makes the decision to divorce, the family can begin to heal. Working together to have an uncontested divorce could make things go more smoothly and allow both parties to feel that they were fairly treated. The biggest winners in this situation, however, will most likely be the children.
Source: theatlantic.com, “Recognizing When Kids Benefit From Their Parents’ Divorce“, Dalton Conley, April 16, 2014