Steve married his wife what seems like forever ago.
That was a time of such joy and hope. Back then, Steve felt like he was on top of the world and that his life had such potential.
Steve and his wife got through school and had kids. These births were, of course, filled with joy and anticipation.
Eventually, Steve and his wife bought a house for their family.
Overall, things were good, and Steve and his wife felt close — for a few years. Then life happened.
Steve worked — a lot. His wife worked too, but she took care of the kids a lot. In fact, that’s really how she defined her life: as a mom.
Things were okay, for the most part.
But Steve could feel a creeping problem: he and his wife weren’t connecting like they used to. They were drifting apart.
In the beginning, it wasn’t anything major, just not being as close as before.
Then the fights about parenting, money, etc. became more frequent and worse. Steve and his wife weren’t on the same page anymore.
Sometimes they would talk and come together on some things for a while, but they always drifted back apart, and it usually didn’t take long.
Steve didn’t find his wife nearly as attractive as he used to. Part of this was they had both let themselves go a bit, but mostly Steve didn’t feel his wife was the girl he fell in love when they got married.
Because of all this, intimacy decreased, which increased the problems.
By now, Steve and his wife were spending more time apart. They started really resenting each other.
They were keeping up appearances, but not much else.
Then, like it always does in these situations, something snapped.
It might have been the fighting. It might have been the talking to other people a bit too much, or some outright adultery.
Whatever the last straw was, the marriage was done.
This realization kicked in Steve’s anxiety.
He didn’t know how much time or what custody he may have with his kids. He didn’t know if he’d have enough money to live on, or if he’d have enough to take care of the kids. He didn’t know how divorce worked in the courts or even how to get a divorce started.
Steve was confused and scared.
So, Steve went to the internet and started checking out divorce. He read tons of different sites and found a lot said totally different things about money and custody.
Attorney websites weren’t much help. The sites talked about how great the attorney was, but they didn’t actually answer the questions Steve had about divorce. And when lawyers did explain things online, they talked like lawyers, which made everything hard to understand.
Steve just wanted someone to answer his questions in simple, plain English.
If he understood how divorce worked and had him questions answered, he might not feel so anxious (“anxious” is really just another word for “scared”) and he might be able to figure out what to do and how to protect his kids and his money.
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