What Questions Should I Ask at a Divorce Consultation?

Here is a set of questions you should ask a divorce lawyer you intend to hire.

What Questions Should I Ask at a Divorce Consultation?
  • Experience-related questions
  • Operations-related questions
  • Case-related questions
  • Fees-related questions

There are two stages of hiring an effective and experienced family law attorney who is just right for your case: (1) Short-listing a few lawyers. (2) Interviewing them. In an earlier post, we have guided you on how to shortlist divorce lawyers. In this post, we will guide you on the questions that you should ask your potential attorney during the initial consultation.

Experience-Related Questions

How many divorce cases does your attorney’s handle at a time?

You are looking for a firm staffed with experienced lead attorneys who do not handle more than 35 cases (per attorney) at a time. According to our experience, any attorney who handles more than 35 cases at a time is overloaded with work. At the same time, you also do not want to work with an attorney who does not have a sufficient workload. An attorney may be relatively-free because people probably do not consider him effective.

You need to weigh both these factors (overloaded vs. relatively free) and also check whether the law firm has been in practice long enough to build a decent reputation.

How many cases are settled by your firm before trial?

If a law firm settles more than 97–98% of its cases before trial, it means that the firm is staffed with excellent negotiators. On the other hand, a law firm that goads its clients to fight it out in the courts, which leads to going to trial at an elevated rate, may either be trying to squeeze extra money from its clients or may not be staffed with skilled negotiators.

How many divorce cases have you resolved to the satisfaction of your clients?

Break this question down into several parts – for example, how many child custody cases have you taken on and how many of these have you resolved? Then ask about cases regarding alimony, property distribution, etc.

One way to determine how satisfied clients are with a law firm’s work is to look at how many public 5-star reviews the law firm has. 5-star reviews aren’t always 100% accurate, but they are a good general indicator of law firm quality.

How many of your firm’s cases were resolved by collaborative divorce?

Collaborative divorce resolution helps spouses reduce the financial and emotional cost of a divorce, and the process calmly resolves matters through negotiation and mediation. The settlement is quick, protects confidentiality, reduces stress, and allows the spouses to move on with their lives without any additional feelings of ill-will. Our firm believes that mediation and collaboration in negotiation are preferable, except when it is not possible, for example in high-conflict cases.

Do you know my spouse?

If the attorney knows your spouse, it can cause a conflict of interest. 

Operations-Related Questions

Who will handle my case?

You are interviewing the attorney because you may hire him. So, ask him whether he/she or one of the team members will be handling your case. If the lawyer plans to assign the case to a team member, make sure that you trust the lawyer you are interviewing, as well as that lawyer’s team, and you are confident that the assigned team member will serve you well.

Who will assist you in my case?

The law firm you plan to hire must be adequately staffed as most cases need the assistance of paralegals and associates.

What work will you do and what will the associate/paralegals do? Who will negotiate my case or argue in the courts?

Of course, you want an experienced attorney to handle the key elements of your case, including negotiation and trial. 

Who will take my calls and inform or clarify doubts – the attorney or the paralegal?

You want to know that your attorney will speak with you directly and systemically. You also want to know that the paralegal helping you knows your case and will answer your questions. During your consultation, ask what the law firm’s system is for systemic communication, how often you will be contacted per week, and who will contact you. If you don’t receive specific answers, then the law firm likely does not have a system for contacting and communicating with clients. That’s not good. Find a law firm in which both the attorneys and the paralegals systemically communicate with every client.

Will I receive copies of all documents when they are filed?

“Yes” is the answer you are looking for.

Case-Related Questions

Will we strategize the case together?

You should lay out the facts and the evidence on the table, provide inputs, and collaborate with your attorney regarding strategy, realizing that your attorney ultimately decides which strategy will benefit you the most.

Will I receive feedback on any developments concerning the strategy adopted?

A responsible family law attorney always keeps his clients up-to-speed with any change in the strategy. Also, the attorney prepares them in advance for any meetings or negotiations.

Have you handled cases with the same circumstances as my case? If so, how did you approach that case, and what was the result?

If the lawyer has handled cases in which the circumstances were identical to the ones in your case and was successful, it could be a bonus. This is the type of lawyer you can consider hiring so long his answers to the other questions are satisfactory.

What negatives do you see in my case?

This is an important question that should be honestly answered by your lawyer. You need to be ready for the worst-case scenario and your attorney should help you understand both the best and the worst outcomes.

What are your personal feelings about alimony, property division, and child custody?

Ideally, you want to work with an attorney who is objective and does not allow his personal feelings to get in the way of his advice or arguments. If his personal views interfere with the case, and if they conflict with your opinion, it could affect the outcome of your case.

Fees-Related Questions

How do you bill clients?

Divorce lawyers usually charge fees based on billable hours (line-item billing) or flat fees. In the billable hours model, the fees are charged based on the time spent on your case. The attorney lists the tasks performed and charges you per task, and you get to know which task is completed and the time it took. Note that many divorce attorneys usually bill in 6- or 12-minute increments. In the flat fees model, the lawyer charges a flat fee, sometimes for the entire case, and sometimes for each stage of the case.

Are the trial fees different from the hourly rate?

Note that some attorneys charge a flat fee for days on which they attend a trial. Clarify these as well.

How much is your retainer?

A retainer is an upfront amount of money you pay to get your case started and to keep it going. Retainers can range from almost nothing (usually, inexperienced and low-skill attorneys require very little for their retainers) to very expensive (large firms that often take corporate cases will charge exorbitant amounts for a family law retainer). The most important factor when deciding whether to pay an attorney’s retainer is whether you trust the attorney, the attorney’s system, and the attorney’s team, and whether you believe the retainer is worth the value of what that attorney will do for you and your family.

What happens if my retainer is depleted?

Once you know the retainer amount, you want to understand how the retainer system works. Some attorneys allow the retainer to deplete completely, before replenishing it. In fact, most attorneys do this. It’s not a good system because once you get below $0 in your retainer and you’re in the negative, you owe your attorney money, and your attorney becomes your banker. When your attorney is your banker, the relationship changes and your attorney is constantly coming after you for money instead of focusing on your case. 

You want to find an attorney who always keeps money in your retainer so you aren’t in the negative. This type of retainer is called an “evergreen retainer,” and that’s the type you want your attorney to have. 

How much will I have to pay towards court filing fees, process server fees, court reporter fees , telephone calls, and out-of-pocket expenses?

Overall, based on your experience in cases that were similar to mine, how much will my case cost?

You want to know how much other cases like yours have cost in the past so you have an idea about how much yours will cost. If the attorney doesn’t know this number, it might be because the attorney is inexperienced. When you receive the number and you feel comfortable with the attorney, the attorney’s system, how well the attorney will serve you and your family, and you’re comfortable with how the attorney will approach your case, it’s time to decide whether you want to hire that attorney.

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Angel Castillo
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Leilani was incredible to work with throughout my case. She was always available when I needed her, and both she and Dani consistently went out of their way especially every Wednesday and Friday, to make sure they made time for me. Their dedication and responsiveness never went unnoticed. Leilani handled everything with professionalism and care, guiding me step by step toward a resolution. I truly appreciate the support, communication, and commitment they showed from start to finish
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Going through a custody case is overwhelming, but having my attorney Nick, made all the difference. He was calm when I was stressed, always responsive, explained everything clearly, and truly had my child’s best interest at heart. Attention to detail, and courtroom presence made a huge difference. I felt heard, respected, and protected throughout the entire process. His communication was clear and consistent, and I never felt left in the dark. I’m beyond grateful for his hard work and dedication. I would absolutely recommend Nick to anyone needing strong, compassionate representation .
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I’m very glad I chose Brown Family Law to handle my divorce. From start to finish, the process went smoothly. Divorce can be incredibly stressful, but much of that stress was eased thanks to their professionalism and guidance. Special thanks to Nicholas Schwarz and Carren Leavitt—both are outstanding attorneys who clearly know exactly what they’re doing. I couldn’t have asked for better representation. Thank you!
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Nicole Lepore
1 month ago
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Tyler Morrill
1 month ago
I worked with Nicholas Schwarz during my divorce and mediation, and I couldn’t be more satisfied with the outcome. My biggest concern was making sure my financial needs were still covered while paying alimony, and Nicholas was consistently clear, responsive, and genuinely protective of my interests. With his guidance, I reached a fair settlement that allowed me not just to get by, but to actually live my life. Divorce is always stressful, but he worked hard for me and took a lot of that stress off my shoulders. I would recommend him without hesitation and would hire him again.
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2 months ago
Mr. Clay Randle is an excellent lawyer. He responded quickly and was able to get my daughter's divorce competed in a short period of time. I highly recommend him and his law firm. Thank you
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Carl Stubbs
2 months ago
Clay Randle helped our family more than he will ever know. My daughter was in a bad situation and through his help and Brown Family Law she was able to get her divorce done and finalized in what seemed to me an amazingly short time. Clay will look out for your best interests and defend your rights. He is amazing and I highly recommend him. His tenacity and attention to detail helped us through this difficult time.Thanks Clay!
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Sean Miller
2 months ago
Daniel and Carren were amazing throughout my entire time with them. It was such a relief having Daniel as my attorney, he was thorough, explained everything so I understood it, he worked hard with me and spoke with me in a regular basis to keep me in the loop with everything happening in my case. He fought for me. It meant the world to my boys and I and we can continue our lives and move forward. Thank you Daniel. Carren was so amazing to send me follow up, keep me up to date on anything that changed with my case. Any time there were changes she was so on top of it! I’m so glad I could count on these guys, truly. Thank you guys from the bottom of my heart.
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2 months ago
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2 months ago
The attorneys at Brown Family Law, and Jennifer Keeton in particular, are so caring, as well as competent. Jennifer was always easy to get ahold of and was good at listening and understanding what my goals were, and I always felt that she would do her utmost to ensure that I was taken care of and able to achieve the best outcome for me and my children.
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3 months ago
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Rhett McQuiston
3 months ago
I rarely ever leave a review but my divorce attorney, Nathaniel Garrabrandt, his paralegal and the entire Brown Family Law were great to work with. I received regular communication from Nathaniel and his staff throughout the process. Nathaniel was highly recommended to me and now I know why. I’m very grateful for Nathaniel and the staff at Brown Family Law. It was one of the most difficult times of my life and working with them made it a little better.
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3 months ago
Brown Family Law have been wonderful to work with. Their professionalism, knowledge and empathy were instrumental in the successful resolution of a very difficult situation. If we ever had need of an attorney with their skill set we would not hesitate to call on them again.
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Ross Westwater
3 months ago
Absolutely stand out humans leading me through one of the most stressful and disorienting events of my life. I got what I needed and with my soul intact. Great insights, compassion and I feel having the support and capabilities of Nick to be instrumental to my coming out the other side with optimism! Cheers, Brown Family Law!
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Bill Tovar
3 months ago
I cannot express how grateful I am for the way Nathaniel and the team at Brown Family Law handled my divorce case. Their level of professionalism and honesty is truly exceptional—qualities that used to be standard but, unfortunately, feel increasingly rare today. From start to finish, they were supportive, transparent, and genuinely committed to helping me navigate an incredibly difficult time. I felt heard, respected, and well-represented every step of the way. I highly recommend Brown Family Law to anyone seeking a trustworthy and skilled legal team.

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Charity Musonda
4 months ago
Daniel Young and Carren Leavitt did an awesome job working on my case. Their commitment and dedication was great. They kept me updated at every stage of the case until it was finalized. I would greatly recommend them.
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4 months ago
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teri gallo
4 months ago
Brown Family Law was super great and comforting in a stressful time in my life.
I’m so glad I had them.
Nick was fantastic!
Response from the owner:Thank you, Teri.
Dani is extremely helpful. I am grateful for her professionalism.
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Jake Wyperd
5 months ago
Worked with Nick and Carren they did an awesome job with a difficult situation. The whole Brown law team was excellent to work with. I would highly recommend them to anyone that needs thier services. Thank you Nick and Carren also the rest of the team. On a side note everyone i delt with was very friendly! Thank you again!
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5 months ago
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Lee Jacobs
5 months ago
Clay was fantastic. I really appreciated his professionalism and knowledge. I would absolutely recommend him to anyone needing his services.
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Cindy Tolboe
5 months ago
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Jake Hope
5 months ago
Daniel is a wizard. He’s incredibly knowledgeable and has a real gift for walking you through stressful situations with clarity and calm. He makes the process feel easy when it could otherwise be overwhelming. Highly recommend working with him!
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Bailey Marie
5 months ago
David Handy and his team were fantastic in helping me navigate custody time with my daughter. He gave the me reassurance and encouragement I needed with each step and I couldn't be more grateful to him! Thanks David! And to his team Candace & Brooklyn for being very helpful in keeping constant communication open. I enjoyed working with everyone!
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Austin Stoddard
5 months ago
I had a great experience. Amazing guidance and direction to best help me and my situation.
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Aaron Martinez
5 months ago
This has honestly been a first-class experience! I've gotten to work with many attorneys throughout my life and none have been as attentive as, Clay Randle has been.
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Tim Larsen
5 months ago
Daniel and Carren were great to work with. They took time to help me understand the process and get through a difficult time. When I had questions they were quick to respond and really listened to my concerns.
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Lauren Perkins
5 months ago
Glad Jason was fired. Clay can handle any case like a champ. Thank you brown family law.
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Matthew Ross
5 months ago
Kayelise was the easiest to talk to. She addressed all my questions regarding my divorce and has so much empathy for those she talks to. I can’t thank her enough for her guidance in my divorce and answering all my questions.
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Crew Carlson
5 months ago
I have had the privilege of working alongside Nate Garrabrandt through our BNI group and hearing him share valuable insights every week about the divorce process. Even though I haven’t personally needed the services of Brown Family Law, I can confidently say that Nate is extremely knowledgeable, well-educated, and passionate about helping his clients navigate such a challenging time. His professionalism and expertise stand out, and I would not hesitate to recommend him and his firm to anyone in need of a skilled divorce attorney.
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Tayler Taft
5 months ago
Would highly recommend! Carren & Nathanial took incredible care of our case & got us to our end goal :)
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matt conte
5 months ago
Nick Schwarz, a fantastic attorney, incredibly knowledgeable and caring. Wonderful attitude with clients. Highly responsive, and acts quickly. Never leaves you hanging.
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C Eaton
5 months ago
Daniel Young and Carren Leavitt were excellent to work with. It was a very difficult process for me on a personal level and they walked me through each step to a successful outcome I’m very happy with .
Response from the owner:Thank you so much. Glad we could help.
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Kelley Daly
5 months ago
I can’t recommend Nick Schwarz enough. He really cares about his clients, goes above and beyond to exceed expectations and he does extra research to offer insights no one else would think of. I’ve worked with him on several projects in the past and he’s always both very impressive and intrinsically creative. Would recommend him to anyone.
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Timothy Tucker
5 months ago
Nick Schwarz and I were colleagues and he is extremely thoughtful and cared about clients. He is an excellent attorney and an even better person. He will make an excellent addition to any case.

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